health goals

Just Talking Won’t Get Results

How often do you just talk about your self care goals? For those goals, do you have a plan of action that you focus on daily? If not, that is the number one reason you are not getting results. You cannot just talk about what you want to do. Time is not stopping to wait for you to get it together. It is time to start doing the things that you need to make self care a priority. Here are a few tips to help get you moving.

Focus on 1 goal at a time.

Trying to do too many things at once can be overwhelming. This often keeps you from doing anything at all. It is easier to break down a large goal into small parts. For example, if your goal is to exercise one hour a day but you can’t carve out an hour yet, start with a time frame that is easily doable. Even if it is 10 minutes. Do it. This is 10 minutes of action that helps move you closer to your exercise goal.

Schedule time for yourself and stick to it.

Often women have the idea of doing something for themselves, but allow other people and things to take space during that time. So, it’s important to designate time for what you need and allow the other stuff to wait. If you’ve scheduled in a massage, training session at the gym, therapist appointment, or whatever, that is your time to focus on you. Unless it is an emergency, it is important that you stick to your plan. It’s okay to say yes to what you need and no to the other stuff.

Be prepared for what you want to do.

It’s easy to say what you want to work on. But you have to know in order to get it done, you have to be in a position to do it. You have to be prepared. This involves knowing what is needed AND having access to the tools. For example, if your goal is to eat healthier snacks throughout the day, then you have to buy and prepare those snacks. This may involve adding them to your grocery list, getting snack bags or containers, a lunch bag, cutting up foods in advance, and more. These are things that require you to take action. When you do these things you put yourself in position to succeed.

Every day you should have 1 action item that you do for your self care.

Don’t make it an overwhelming task, remember this isn’t supposed to be stressful. If its’ stressful it isn’t the intent of self care. Keep making yourself a priority daily in some way. I hope that these tips help you do that.

You want honest, right?

Recently, I was reading through Amber L Wright’s book Can We Talk? and there is a lesson titled Get Some Goals So Your Life Won’t Suck. The lesson gives you easy steps to set and achieve goals, which is why I am so drawn to this section of the book. 

But what motivated me to write you today are the traits she identifies for searching for an accountability partner. Now you will have to go get the book on amazon for the full scoop but let me tell you there is a part that resonates in me because it calls out telling the truth, even when it hurts!

This is me. It used to make me really uncomfortable to tell someone what they didn’t want to hear. It took some time but I have become bolder.  And when it comes to my health coaching the risk is too high for me to give you candy coated truths. I need to make it plain and clear when it comes to your health and fitness.

When you clicked this post you expected honest truths, right? Well, I got them. Let’s start with these.

3 things no one wants to tell you about your healthier lifestyle

Drinking Water – When you finally get your water intake up and get well hydrated, you will have to pee so much that you will start to wonder if you should just set up an office in the bathroom. Coworkers will stare as you walk by to go to the bathroom AGAIN and AGAIN! Your urine will become so clear you’ll look down at the toilet and question if you really used it. 

Losing Weight – Once you start getting results and showing off your new wardrobe, people will assume you did everything EXCEPT work for it. They’ll ask what about pills you took, what surgery did you get, did you starve yourself, and some will question if you have an illness that is causing your weight loss. And believe me, the list goes on.

Eating Healthy – Don’t be surprised if over time no one wants to eat what you cook or you stop getting invites to go out to lunch. Now that you aren’t into fast food and junk food as much, people will think you are weird and no longer appreciate their good food. Your food choices will somehow become the equivalent of eating grass.

Changing your lifestyle is not easy, but it is doable. Let’s be honest there are some cons that we’d rather not discuss as we think about living healthier. Sure we know the benefits but we have to talk about all the pieces that impact our lives. That is why I strive to have the honest conversations and help as many women as I can live healthier with a realistic plan.